“why is a good boyfriend so hard to find ???” Ashley W
Well, maybe the first question you should ask yourself is, why are you looking so hard for one? We all want companionship. (At least MOST of us do.). To fall head over heels in love with someone, and spend the rest of our lives loving and caring for that person. And there is nothing wrong with that. UNLESS, the reason you are looking so hard, is because you don’t truly love and appreciate yourself. And I don’t just mean in the sense of having self worth. We ALL have at least a little of that. I mean, do you love yourself enough to be on your own, till the right person comes along. Do you appreciate yourself enough to not settle. If you can answer yes to both of those questions, then you can move on to the next paragraph. But if not, then stop reading, go look in the mirror, and take a good long hard look at yourself. Realize that you are being unfair to yourself, and your potential. That you are letting outside forces dictate what you feel like you are worth. Breathe, smile,…and let go. You are an individual, and if for no other reason, beautiful based simply on that fact.
Now, if the above is NOT the case, and you yourself are not also acting immature and irresponsible in thoughts and actions?……then the answer is simple. Stop looking!!! I can’t say this enough times. If you look for love, you have a 50/50 chance of finding it. If you are ALWAYS looking for love, then 99.999999% of the time, you will NOT find it. Why? Because, the harder you look, the more you lose focus. The more you start to look for things that aren’t there? The greater the chance you will make yourself BELIEVE that it is. The old saying goes “Everything that shines, ain’t a diamond”. This rings true for love as well. Don’t be that person walking around picking up everything that shines a little bit, and calling it love. They shine because they have worth. And you see that potential in them. However, that does not mean that you have found love. That means that you have found a reason that, if anyone gets to know them, would love about them. I can love things about anyone. That does NOT mean I love them, and wish to spend the rest of my life, or even more than a couple hours with them.
Point is, boyfriends are MEANT to come and go (same as girlfriends). That is the process. If you are thinking you want MORE than that, then you need to refocus….on yourself. Love yourself, and a man will take notice, and appreciate that you see yourself, and carry yourself like a woman that demands a MAN at her side, and not just a “boyfriend” to hang out with.
(Have a question or concern you would like my advice on? inbox me at SKYLINE COUTURE-CHICAGO.)